The Lessons From The Game Podcast
Gurthro Steenkamp
Paul Willemse: Identity, Sacrifice & Leaving the Game Behind
Episode Notes
Paul Willemse joins me for a deeply personal conversation about identity, sacrifice, belonging and the moment he had to walk away from the game he loved.
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He opens up about:
• Choosing France over the Springboks — and the emotional cost
• Living between two nations and two identities
• Public criticism and pressure from both sides
• The mental battle behind repeated concussions
• Being forced into retirement before he was ready
• Losing confidence, rebuilding purpose and finding life after rugby
• What players really struggle with behind the scenes
• Fatherhood, family and redefining himself outside the sport
Chapter: 00:00 Tunnel Dreams & Early Emotions01:40 Split Between Two Nations04:10 France vs Springboks: Inside the Stadium07:25 Singing Both Anthems: Identity & Pride09:54 The Emotional Return to Stade de France13:02 Growing Up Massive: The Weight Story17:34 South African Size: Culture, Genetics & Mindset22:29 Leaving the Bulls & Choosing France31:09 France as a New Home & Early Struggles39:17 First Test for France & Closing the Bok Dream54:27 Concussions, Retirement & Losing Identity1:10:56 Life After Rugby: Purpose, Mental Health & New Projects
If you’re a player, coach, or someone navigating transition, this episode will speak to you.