#119: The Likeable Loser: Why Being "Easy to Play With" Is Costing You the Life and Game You Want

You've been "the fun guy" in the group for so long that you've started confusing being liked with being safe.

You crack jokes. You wave people through. You rush putts. You skip your full routine because you don't want to be "that guy." You downplay your standards with, "We're just out here having fun."

And then you walk off 18 quietly frustrated… because you do care. You do want to play well. You do want to shoot lower scores and be taken seriously.

This episode is about the identity I call the Likeable Loser: the man who sacrifices his standards, edge, and ambition to remain accepted, easy, and socially safe—on the course, in business, and in relationships.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What the Likeable Loser is (and why he's not lazy, broken, or incapable)
• How people-pleasing shows up on the scorecard through rushed process and softened standards
• Why "winners are assholes" is a hidden belief that keeps you stuck
• How labeling a "part" of you creates distance, clarity, and choice
• Why this pattern formed: belonging, approval, and social safety
• The real cost: self-trust, self-respect, integrity, and inner peace
• How to pursue excellence without becoming arrogant, intense, or unlikeable

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

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Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

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