#127: Stop Affirming. Start Asking. The Fastest Way to Goal Achievement

In this episode, I challenge one of the most common personal development habits—affirmations—and introduce a far more powerful alternative.

If confidence feels inconsistent… if discipline fades when motivation disappears… and if you know what to do but still struggle to execute, this conversation is for you.

We explore why asking better questions—specifically yes-or-no "Will you?" questions—creates faster, more sustainable behavior change than statements, goals, or affirmations ever could.

Drawing on decades of behavioral research, identity psychology, and real-world golf and life examples, I break down how questions engage your subconscious, eliminate excuses, and leverage cognitive dissonance to pull you into action—especially when you don't feel like it.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why affirmations often fail to create lasting behavior change
• How asking "Will you?" activates confidence and ownership
• The psychology behind cognitive dissonance—and how to use it
• Why yes/no questions eliminate excuses and justifications
• How identity-based questions reinforce discipline under pressure
• The subtle but critical difference between can I and will I
• How to use questions to execute when motivation is gone

This is a tactical yet deeply transformational episode designed to help you strengthen discipline, upgrade your self-talk, and accelerate becoming the version of yourself required to achieve your biggest goals—on the course and in life.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

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Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

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