Episode 88: “Parents Don’t Understand How Their Pressure Stunts Development” w/ Princeton’s Courtney Kessel

The pressure meant to help a young player succeed may be the very thing holding them back.

Scott and Jamie sit down with Princeton women’s hockey head coach Courtney Kessel to talk development, recruiting, team culture, and the role parents should play as the game gets more serious.

Courtney shares her path from multi-sport athlete to Team Canada, including being the final cut from the 2014 Olympic team and returning to practice with the players who were going. She explains how that experience shaped the way she helps athletes handle disappointment, separate hockey performance from personal identity, and respond productively when they are not getting the role they want.

She also gets into what Princeton evaluates beyond talent, why culture matters more than winning, and why being the best player at a lower level may offer more development than sitting at the bottom of a stronger team. For parents, her message is direct: give players a voice, let them take ownership, and recognize when pressure is taking the joy out of the game.

In this episode:

• Why taking time away from hockey can renew a player’s love for it
• What Princeton evaluates beyond skill and statistics
• Being a top-six player versus the twelfth forward
• Why character and kindness matter during recruiting

Support the player, protect the joy, and let them own the journey.

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